When you find a listing, expect to apply, same as for a sublet, with history and pictures. But most of those were years ago, and it seems like it's gotten more sketch over time. It helps to have a friend who's done some porn films.įor parties where I didn't know anyone, some of the best have been from Adam4Adam. Once you have friends who know that you're open to the idea and you're a good guest, they let you know when they hear about something. Instead, everyone can meet and hang out a bit at the start, then switch into play mode together.Ī bunch of them were from friends. But a small party- maybe 8 guys or less- won't really need this. Maybe get handsy and kiss, and then move into the play space. Guys in the chill space could talk, check each other out. The best parties I've been to had a play space and a chill space. One guy I knew had an open-house policy and lost his credit cards. Lock off areas of your space that you don't want to have guests in. Otherwise, you are now the proud host of a coke party, whether you want to be or not. Throw them out so that the guy who just needs to pee can use the bathroom.
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If two guys go into the bathroom and lock the door, they are doing coke. Now repeat that with bareback sex, peeing on people in the bathroom, etc.īe prepared to throw people out. And then throw out the guy who doesn't care what anybody says when he opens the bottle of poppers. So if you didn't want a popper party, you needed to say, "No drug use, including weed/poppers" at the start. When one guy opens a bottle of poppers, the people who hate the smell will take off. Those may be the people you wanted to stay.Įxamples include: showing up obviously high on meth. Then half the party will get sketched out and leave. Unless the host sets boundaries and is prepared to enforce them, the behavior of the party will drop to the level of the filthiest person there. Secondly, views about sex vary widely, and everything that is vanilla to one person is filthy to the next. But if they assess a situation and see, "none of these people know me, and I will never see them again", their behavior drops about ten notches. The most common way for them to be stopped is by fear of judgement from friends. They will get away with and exploit any situation to the best of their ability until they are stopped in some way. My second recommendation is that you keep your first event very small.įirstly, men are pigs. My first recommendation is to not do your own party until you have been to a few and seen what you like and don't like. But there is no general rule about sex parties- every one will have a different vibe based on the people who attend.
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One was a regular party that was truly amazing, and I actually got to know many of the guys. I've never set one up, mostly because it seems like a lot of work.Įvery party I've been to has been different. I've been to a bunch of sex parties over the years. What was good? What was not so good? What would you have changed? Tl dr - Might host a sex party, want to know your experiences as a host/attendee. I'm posting here because I want to know what your experiences have been with a sex party/group session/gang bang/orgy/whatever you wanna call it. I would like a little relaxing "ice breaker" period before the fun so guys can get comfortable and chat (good idea?). My friend has a couple guys he wants that he's already fooled around with to come because he'd feel better that way. All jokes aside, I've already read up on some things and have put together a good starting point with some rules being safe sex only with condoms provided, screening who is coming beforehand, all consensual and can say "no" at any time, etc. The adventurous part of me is down because it's a new experience (and what gay doesn't enjoy planning a party of any kind?). The thing is that while I'm pretty open sexually I have never attended a group session. It started with my friend and I joking about having a sex party, but after a while now he seriously wants to set one up with me being the main host and him co-hosting basically (his place).